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The Weight of Motherhood on my Shoulders


As a person in general not even a mother I am known for

"stretching myself too thin"
"bitting off more than I can chew"
"putting too much on my plate"
"getting in over my head"

all of these common metaphors basically just meaning
I try to do too much at once and sometimes it feels impossible.

Add being a mother to the equation and it multiply's 
that feeling of impossible and adds on some stress.
I know I am not the only mother who feels this way
and that is why I wanted to throw it out there...
or at least get it off my chest and have a sense of relief. 

Currently I am 32 weeks pregnant with my third child
while juggling my littles who are two and one!

I am their prime care taker as my fiancé owns his own 
successful clothing store and runs that full time.

I also occasionally work at his store packaging and shipping.
(when we have a dependable babysitter) 

Like most housewives / stay at home moms household
chores are my responsibility and never ending

I just recently started my own clothing line where I juggle
everything 100% by myself financially and physically. 

Add on my hobbies of blogging, photography & social media period
and you have my life in a nutshell minus the unending doctor
appointments, dirty diapers, emails and anything else I am forgetting.
I forget a lot. 




All day I run around like a chicken with its head cut off trying 
to accomplish everything that I need to get done.
It's exhausting but when I take a second for me to 
relax all I can think about is what I SHOULD be doing instead.


"You need to help Brayden with his words more."

"You should be helping Elena learn how to walk more."

"You need to spend more than just a few hours
giving them ALL OF YOUR ATTENTION, they deserve that."

"You need to manage your time better because soon you will
have another baby to add to the mix!"

"You need to be more cute and lovey with your man."

"You need to figure out why Brayden keeps breaking out."

"You need to stop your McDonalds Strawberry Cream Cheese pie obsession."

"You need to be better at staying on top of chores."

"You need to stop taking so many bubble baths."

"You need to brainstorm tee shirt designs."

"You need to post more on your blog if you want to get to 
the next level where you want to be."

"You need to drink more water."

"Why can't you take as good as photos as the other bloggers"

"You need to figure out how to keep expanding your social media
so it can help Matt support your family."

"You need to get out of the house more with the kids, they have cabin fever."

"You need to break Brayden's picky eating habits."

"You need to transition Elena to a sippy cup."

"You need to call your mom and brother more."

I could go on forever about stuff that I am just constantly beating myself up over because I want to be be an AMAZING MOTHER,
an AMAZING BLOGGER, an AMAZING WIFE and 
own an AMAZING CLOTHING COMPANY
I just want it all but don't have the TIME to do it all. 



What I realized is as mothers we not only put our kids and
significant others needs before our own but even lack to
give our selves pats on the back when we need them.

We are human! Exhausted humans who feel guilty
if we even sit down for 20 minutes to catch our breath.

Those naps that people tell us we should take when the 
kids sleep... yeah those are spent getting done all the chores 
we can't get done while the kids are awake and trying to
eat anything they find and stick their fingers where they don't belong. 

The word relaxation is no where to be 
found in the definition of being a mother. 

But I can tell you what words are:

Constant worry and guilt that 
you aren't being the best mother. 
The mother we know our littles 
ones deserve and we want to be.

But by having those feelings tells me that you, even I,
are amazing mothers because we love our children
so much that we want to be the best that we can be for them.
They are the center of our whole world.

So just remember ladies to take a breath and know
you are pretty awesome and deserve those bubble baths!
Even those McDonalds Strawberry Cream Pies. 

No ones perfect and those other bloggers may take
amazing photos and seem like perfection but I bet
they beat them selves up constantly too. 

Cheers to doing the best we can do and knowing 
that our kids will love us even if we are a little nutty.




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EMAIL: catchingupwithcrystal@gmail.com

Comments

  1. Don't be so hard on yourself. Cut yourself some slack. No one is perfect and there are plenty of things we "should be" doing but who cares. No one is going to remember that time your house wasn't perfect. I'm very OCD when it comes to my house and I'm always cleaning and organizing... I'm slowly starting to let things go and enjoy time with my children. I'll never get those days back. My oldest is almost 7 and my youngest just turned 3. Just breathe and look at what you've already accomplished.

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  2. Don't be so hard on yourself. Cut yourself some slack. No one is perfect and there are plenty of things we "should be" doing but who cares. No one is going to remember that time your house wasn't perfect. I'm very OCD when it comes to my house and I'm always cleaning and organizing... I'm slowly starting to let things go and enjoy time with my children. I'll never get those days back. My oldest is almost 7 and my youngest just turned 3. Just breathe and look at what you've already accomplished.

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  3. Let's just say I needed this today. To hear that I am not alone. Thank you for your words they felt like they spoke directly to me.

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  4. I feel like this and I have ONE child!! You're frickin ass & takin names girl - and looking beautiful while doing it - you go ahead and enjoy the shit outta those bubble baths & McD's pies, woman!! :) #SuperMom

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  5. I'm soon to have 3 babies 3 and under too. And let me just tell you...sometimes we are stretched thin as moms! It's not because we have kids close together, it's just being a mom! Being a mom is a tough job and full of suprises. I'm pretty sure we are entitled to eat whatever we want! (especially while pregnant) hehe you're doing awesome Crystal! Just do what works for your family and don't worry about anything else! :)

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