Not Understanding the Big Trend ❤

Friday, February 28, 2014


Usually I am not the type of person to express my opinion.
Especially on matters that really don't effect me. 
I have to say though this is a common trend I have been seeing. 
Am I the only one who has noticed an increase in mothers using 
the fact they are a "Teen Mom" to gain popularity? 
Wether is be on television or just every day social media. 
Everyday I come across more and more instagram profiles. 
On these profiles mothers are purposely stereotyping themselves.
Their bios include terms such as:
Teen Mom
Young Mom
TTC Teen
etc.

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Why do individuals feel the need to put themselves in a category?
Does being a teen mother make you better than the other moms?
Stronger than other moms?
Smarter than other moms?
Is it really a reason why people should follow you?
Envy you?
Be proud of you?
Say you are an inspiration?

You could be 14 years old and be one of the strongest moms out there.
I would be able to see that you are strong by the way you carry yourself.
By the way you take care of your child.
By the way you put their needs first and do what it takes to give them the life they deserve.
Why is there a need to emphasize the fact that you are a teen mom?

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I got pregnant with Brayden a month after turning 20 years old.
Not once have I called myself a "Young Mom" 
or used my age to gain followers or respect.
Want to know what kind of mom I am?

I am a fun mom.
a loving mom.
a co bathing mom.
a strong mom.
a busy mom.
a concerned mom.
an over protective mom.
a silly mom.
a caring mom.
a cuddly mom.
a full time working mom.
a blogging mom.
a proud mom. 
a photo obsessed mom.
an infatuated mom. 
a strict mom.
an understanding mom.
a patient mom.
a hard-working mom.
a happy mom.
a helpful mom.
a kind mom.
a sweet mom.
a classy mom.
a stylish mom.
a kind-hearted mom.
a passionate mom.
a powerful mom.
a persuasive mom.
a sometimes emotional mom.
a over worried mom.
a funny mom.
a bottle making mom.
a diaper changing mom.

Do you get the point?
I am way MORE than a YOUNG MOM.
I strive to be the BEST MOM I can be.
Don't gain followers because you are a teen mom.
Gain followers because you are an AMAZING mom. 

Say what you want but don't stereotype me. 

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33 Weeks Down, 7 More To Go!❤

Wednesday, February 26, 2014


Highlights and Lowlights of my Pregnancy Week 32-33:
 Just another week that went flying by in the blink of an eye.
We were suppose to move into our town house last Friday but I had stayed at the apartment to pack.
Turns out we both needed to sign the lease that Friday but Matt had no way to get ahold of me.
There for, moving day got held back to this Friday.
FINGERS CROSSED NOTHING GOES WRONG!

Brayden had been sleeping like a little angel at night but now he is teething again.
We are back to waking up every few hours and him scream crying.
Can't wait for him to just be 100% okay for once.
No abscess, no virus, no teething, no diaper rash and no cold!
Just my little joyful baby boy and his giggles.

Elena has been a little wiggle worm these past few days.
I am starting to see my whole stomach shift as she changes positions.
Last week I suffered from horrible heartburn. Thankfully I have been finding ways around it.
I have to say the only things I really suffered from this week is my sudden allergies to my make up.
The second I put foundation on I break out in hives.
Also my eyeliner makes my eyes water and sting.
Needless to say I haven't been wearing much makeup.
My roots are also getting bad but my hair is so DRY I refuse to dye it.
I would cry if it fell out and bleach isn't very gentle.

Other than that some fun stuff that happened this week:
I got some Maternity Photos done!
We got our $1000 security deposit back from the second house we were looking at!
Brayden got his tie removed from his abscess! 

Brain fart I can't think of anything more. 
My life is so chaotic that I had to look at my blog to see what week of pregnancy I was on this morning! Someone please say a little prayer that I get rest after this move! 

On that note, 
33 Week Bump Board
This week I wanted to add something little special.
A little lesson on the importance on life and the value of a dollar.
I may look like I have a lot of money because of the way I dress and carry myself.
Not the case. Matthew and I have a comfortable amount of money but we also have many big things to save for.
We want a new couch, a mattress, we have a wedding in October and most of all we have two kids to care for.
There are so many shops out there that aren't HIGH END and still have good items. 
Take my outfit for example in this photo.
My earrings and tank top are from K-Mart
My gray sweater is from Old Navy
My Hollister Jeans are from a thrift shop called Plato's Closet
At the most my outfit cost me $30 and I still look cute. 
You don't have to spend hundreds of dollars to look nice.
I would rather buy my son anything he needs than buy myself clothes. 
SYMPTOMS:
Uncomfortable *mostly at night and in the car
Frequent urination
Braxton hicks more towards the evening.
Sore breasts and nipples!
Blotchy face
Sore back at night
TIRED ALL THE TIME
Dry Hair
HEARTBURN
Cramps 
Itchy abdomen
CONSTIPATION
This week's big developments: Your baby is still gaining weight (about half a pound a week), and she could grow up to another full inch this week. With that much baby inside your uterus, your amniotic-fluid level has maxed out, which explains why some of her pokes and kicks feel pretty sharp these days. (There's less fluid to cushion the blows.) Antibodies are being passed from you to your little one as she continues to develop her own fetal immune system, which will come in handy once she's outside the womb and fending off all sorts of germs.

Your body week 32 of pregnancy: With midnight bathroom runs, leg cramps, heartburn, and your basketball-sized belly, it's no wonder sleep is elusive. Third-trimester insomnia strikes about three-quarters of pregnant women (who may also be coping with a mind that races all night long thinking about your to-do-before-the-baby-comes list). But your body needs rest, so do your best to get comfy — before bed and when you get in it. Grab a pile of pillows, wedge them where you need to, and look on the bright side: Pregnancy insomnia is great training for those sleepless nights to come!
I would like to note I don't fade my stretch marks because I am ashamed. 
I fade them in these collages because I feel like they distract from the point. 
I make these collages to show my bump and the changes it has made in a week.
This week I think it actually looks smaller. 
Like she dropped slightly. 

Weight Gain/Loss: +14.6pounds Sleep: back to feeling and looking like a walking mombie.
Best Moment This Week: My best moment this week will be moving into our townhouse this weekend!
Movement: She is making mommies tummy move and shift every direction! Makes me excited knowing she is growing big and strong for delivery day!
Food Cravings/Aversions: Yogurt, smoothies and anything sweet. Still fighting my bad cravings.
What I Miss: This week I just simply miss being able to lay down and not have to do a DAMN THING.
Stretch Marks: Still old ones just starting to be more noticeable!
Mood: My mood this week is a mixture of happy, stressed and just exhausted.
Labor Signs: Nothing serious! I think she's starting to drop some but 7 more weeks to go!
Upcoming Appointments/Events: Next friday is another appointment with my Midwife!
What I look forward to: Moving into our town house, My baby sprinkle, Brayden's first birthday, the birth of my baby girl and marrying the love of my life. 

Weekly Wisdom: Pulling someone down will never help you reach the top.
Starting weight 119lb - Starting waist measurement 31in.
I am now 133.6lbs and 38 1/2
Of course had to add a photo of this cutie! 

Earning my Tiger Stripes

Thursday, February 20, 2014


First I would like to start of by saying...
Stretch marks are bound to happen when having a baby.
If you are one of the moms who didn't get them then awesome!
If you are one of the many who did or even got them while going through puberty
here is to us and embracing the fact that we no longer have a "flawless body".
 Now hold on tight while I take you back to 2011. 

You may want to close your eyes it's a bit promiscuous.
This was my body type once I finished puberty. 
5 foot 3 | 105 pounds | size 00 pants | size 32 DD bust
Some say too skinny but I never starved myself to get that body.
I actually ate like a cow but I loved to run and be fit.
I had a six pack and never even knew what love handles were.

This photo was taken right after I graduated basic training and AIT for the Army.
I was still fairly small but gained a lot of muscle in my arms and stomach.
I weighed around 110lbs and was in the best shape I had ever been. 
I promise I am not bragging or whining this is all part of the process! 

Then Baby Brayden was conceived!
Myrtle Beach 2012
We were on vacation for a week and made a baby.

The first stretch marks that appeared were on my breasts.
Right after 20 weeks I started to get big red marks under my breasts.
Once I hit around 25 weeks I started to get smaller white ones on the top of my breast.
I took photos to document all that but I bet you all don't blame me for not posting them.

At 30 weeks it was the start of my love handles and inner thigh stretch marks. 
But now I bet you can understand why when you look at these photos.
I got HUGE in less than 10 weeks.
My butt blew up, my stomach blew up even my thighs blew up!

This photo shows the start of stretch marks on my inner thigh.
I took this photo at 35 weeks pregnant. 
They continued to get redder and deeper the last 5 weeks of my pregnancy.
Out of ALL my stretch marks these are the ones I hate. 

38 weeks pregnant with Brayden
As you can see the stretch marks on my love handles proceeded to get worse.
The stretch marks on my lower stomach started to appear around 35 weeks.

I took this photo a few days before my water broke.
As you can see I had very deep and red marks on my lower stomach
and even one right about my lady part! 
Many people ask about my tattoo but it actually hides a lot of the marks.
I wish I was better at taking photos with my first pregnancy. 
This photo shows me 1 day pp, 1 week pp and then 4 months pp.
As I got back to my normal weight and started tanning my stretch marks faded some.
So far with my pregnancy I haven't got many more stretch marks.
My old ones are starting to surface more and turn red again. 
I am okay with my body changing.
My soon to be husband still loves me and my body the same, if not more.
He loves all the extra weight I have in my chest and butt now!
Typical man! 



I may not be a size 00 any more.
I may not have a flawless 6 pack with unmarked skin
but I have had two amazing pregnancies.
I cherish my stretch marks for every mother who wish they could have kept their
baby in the womb for just a few weeks more. 
I cherish my stretch marks for the women who never made it to the third trimester.
I cherish my stretch marks for the women who have never had a chance to be a mom.
I cherish my stretch marks because my tiny body carried two human beings.
Most of all I cherish my stretch marks because everyday I look at my son and fall in love all over again.

I will have to do an update once I am done with this pregnancy!
Also keep up with my postpartum body and things that have worked for me
while getting rid of the weight and fading my stretch marks. 

Before I end this post I wanted to show you the products I use!
I use every SINGLE one of these products DAILY.
I use Cocoa Butter lotion in the morning after my shower.
I use the Cocoa Butter oil through out the day if I get itchy.
I use Bio Oil at night before I go to sleep. 
What are some products you all have used and they work amazing?










32 Weeks Down, 8 More To Go!❤

Wednesday, February 19, 2014


Highlights and Lowlights of my Pregnancy Week 31-32:
I actually had to sit down with a planner and write what I did on each day this past week because I have been so busy! Between Brayden's appointments, my baby appointments, my biopsy, trying to pack to move and keeping up with Luckless... this momma is ready for hibernation

Last Thursday I finally broke down and had a mini panic attack but after hugs from my momma and remembering that it could always be worse I got up, brushed my self off and carried on. When I look at my life from a perspective I see how lucky I really am. I have an AMAZING man who has stuck by my side through thick and thin. I have a healthy baby boy who is way advance for his age and loves me more than I could ever imagine. I have a perfect baby girl in the womb preparing to make her appearance any day and most of all I have people who love me and always give me the strength I need when I am feeling down.

Besides being sleepy all the time and napping at any chance I have this week has been pretty easy. I have managed to avoid restless legs this pregnancy so far and besides catching a 24 hour stomach flu I have no complaints. My breast is still a little tender and bruised from the biopsy but not as bad as I had anticipated. Lets face it... we all worry about our "girls" when it comes to getting needles shoved in them. The pressure on my pelvis has eased up a little as she plays kick boxing with my ribs these days, but that's okay. I try not to complain about her movement or being in pain because I know there are so many moms that would have killed to be able to carry their babies a little longer in the womb. I cherish every back ache, uncomfortable car ride, sweet craving, rib kick, heartburn nightmare and stretch mark I get while carrying my baby girl.


SYMPTOMS:
Uncomfortable 
Frequent urination
Braxton hicks
Sore breasts
Blotchy face
Sore back at night
TIRED
Dry Hair
HEARTBURN
Cramps
Itchy abdomen
CONSTIPATION

This week's big developments: She's starting to get ready for her big debut, tipping the scales at almost four pounds and topping out at just about 19 inches. In these past few weeks, it's all about practice, practice, practice as she hones the skills she'll need to thrive outside the womb — from swallowing and breathing to kicking and sucking. And speaking of sucking, your little one has been able to suck her thumb for a while now. Something else to note: As more and more fat accumulates under your baby's skin, she's becoming less transparent and more opaque.

Your body week 32 of pregnancy: To accommodate you and your baby's growing needs, your blood volume has increased 40 to 50 percent since you got pregnant. With your uterus pushing up near your diaphragm and crowding your stomach, the consequences may be shortness of breath and heartburn. To help relieve your discomfort, try sleeping propped up with pillows and eating smaller meals more often.



Weight Gain/Loss: +12 pounds Sleep: I have actually been getting a lot of sleep yet I am still exhausted ALL THE TIME.
Best Moment This Week: The best moment this week was getting Brayden back to almost 100% healthy. I can't wait to have things calmed down. This past month has been horrible. He also says Mama and Mum now. Melts my heart!
Movement: I always thought she really low but lately she has been bulging more at my ribs. I suppose it makes sense since she is head down now and getting ready for birth. Her little legs are always moving around. It's okay Elena keep pushing moms boobs up and making them look perky. I like the extra lift. (;
Food Cravings/Aversions: This week I haven't had a big appetite but when I am hungry I am STARVED. Matts grandma made us sauerkraut and pork. I pigged out on it! Matt has also made me orange soda and vanilla ice cream floats the past two nights. I KNOW I'M CHEATING MY HEALTHY DIET. But it is SO GOOD!
What I Miss: I have to say I still miss just not being pregnant. I love everything about my bump and feeling her movements but I am ready to have my body back and get back to speed. Im not use to being slowed down! And lets face it my sex drive is not anywhere close to what it use to be. Poor Matt. Hard to be "in the mood" when you feel like there is an elephant laying on your lungs.
Stretch Marks: My mother has stretch marks so I knew I would get them. I apply lotion like crazy but I know that I will still get them. I may not have a perfect body anymore but I already have one perfect child and another on the way!
Mood: Earlier this week I was crazy emotional and dropping my basket but the past few days have been getting better and I am finally feeling like the world isn't on my shoulders! I hope things continue to ease up on us.
Labor Signs: I am trying to remember what day it was. I am thinking it was last Wednesday. But suddenly I got horrible cramps so bad I had to get on my hands and knees to ease the pain and breath through them. I started to time them to make sure it wasn't contractions. They were about 40 seconds every 4 minutes. I messaged my midwife and told her what was going on and she said it could be a stomach bug but if it got worse go to the ER. Sure enough not even a half hour later I was projectile vomiting in the toilet for about 5 minutes straight. Once I threw up the contractions eased up and baby girl and I were feeling amazing by the next morning! After getting that brief view of contractions again I can say I am getting a little nervous for labor again. PUT MY BIG GIRL PANTS ON BECAUSE I ONLY HAVE 56 DAYS TO GO!
Upcoming Appointments/Events: Friday is my appointment with my midwife! I got my results back from my biopsy and they said I was A-OK! I couldn't be more relieved. What I look forward to: Moving into our town house, My baby sprinkle, Brayden's first birthday, the birth of my baby girl and marrying the love of my life.

Weekly Wisdom: When your life is pulling you in every direction, take a deep breath and forget where you belong. Just think of where you wanna be.

Starting weight 119lb - Starting waist measurement 31in.
I am now 131lbs and 39in
Had to include my handsome little man.
So bitter sweet.
He is growing up WAY too fast.
I will be doing his 10 month update very soon!

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